전체 프로그램은 음란물에 집중되어 있습니다. 하지만 오늘은 자위행위에 대해서 이야기를 나누어 보고 싶네요.
이 프로그램을 듣고 계시다면, 음란물이 ‘당신의 인생에 긍정적인 영향을 주는 부분은 아무것도 없다’라는 것을 추측하실 수 있을 겁니다. 그런데, 사람들은 가끔 자위가 어떤 나쁜 영향을 주는가에 대해서 질문을 하곤 합니다. 혹은 안좋다는 것은 알겠는데, 명확하지 않을 수 있습니다.
“전문가”들이 뭐라고 하는가에 따라 그 혼란은 확대됩니다. 사회학자, 인류학자, 심리학자, 혹은 의사들은 자위가 건강하고 자연스러운 것이다라는 의견에 무게를 둡니다.
우선 음란물을 보면서 자위를 하는 것보다 자위행위만 하는 것은 심각성이 덜 하다고 이야기 할 수 있습니다. 그래서 만약 음란물을 보는 습관을 먼저 제거한 이후에 자위행위에 대해서 다루고자 하신다면 그렇게 하시는 것을 권장합니다.
하지만 이 프로그램의 마지막 목표를 큰 그림으로 제시하고자 합니다. 성적 순결의 목표는 바로 배우자와 함께 놀라운 성관계를 가지게 되는 것을 말합니다. 그러기 위해서는 자기중심적인 만족감을 버리고 배우자의 성적 경험을 나의 만족감 위에 두는 것이 필요합니다.
자위는 배우자를 위해 사용하도록 디자인된 생식기를 자기 만족을 위해 사용하는 연습을 하는 것과 같습니다.
이 부분에 대해서 C.S 루이스 라는 학자가 가장 명확하게 이야기를 했습니다.
“나에게 있어 자위행위의 진정한 악의 모습은 맛보게 하는 것이다. 합법적인 방법으로 개인을 자신이 아닌 모습으로 이끌고, 그런 모습을이 되도록 하며, 고치고, 성격 또한 다른 사람의 것으로 되고 (그리고 마침내 자신의 자녀와, 심지어는 손자들에게 까지) 그상태로 변화 되어, 자기 스스로를 감옥에 가두고 상상의 신부를 숨겨둔다.
그리고 그 공간에서 자신을 있다는 것을 인정하게 되면, 진정한 실제 여성과의 하나됨을 온전히 거부하며 나올 수 있는 출구를 영영 못찾도록 막아버린다.
그리고 그 공간은 항상 접근이 가능하며, 당신에게 복종하고, 희생이나 조절이 필요 없으며, 실제로 존재하는 어떤 여성 가질 수 없는 에로틱하고 심리적인 매력을 가진다.
이 어둑어둑한 환상의 여인은 항상 사랑스럽고 언제나 완벽한 애인으로 존재한다. 어떤 책임도 요구 되지 않는다.
결국에는 그 환상들은 자기 자신에 대한 흠모에 빠지게 되는 매개체가 된다. 결국 인생의 가장 큰 목표는 우리 자신에서부터 나오는데 있다. 우리가 태어난 작은 감옥에서 나오는데 있는 것이다. 자위행위는 모든 것을 회피하고 자신으로 부터 나와 타인을 사랑하는 과정을 느려지게 하고 회피하는 행위이다.
가장 큰 위험성은 그 감옥같은 공간을 점점 더 사랑하게 되는데 있다.”
저희들은 성적에너지를 온전히 배우자에게 집중하는 것이 가능할 뿐아니라 가장 자연적인 상태라고 믿습니다. 상대에 대한 성적 순결을 뿌리에 두고 경건한 결혼관계를 경험한 감동적인 결과들을 보아왔습니다.
During this event Benjy Uyama will be sharing his thoughts on a topic that he is very passionate about: High Noon’s role in the future of our movement! He will be explaining how High Noon fits into the grand goal to bless 30,000 people in the next 7 years, and even what we can do as individuals. You won’t want to miss this inspiring and informative talk.
There will be small breakouts to discuss this topic and to interact with your fellow volunteers. In the latter half of the event, we will be having a split facilitator and AP time where you can ask questions and receive support.
We would love to see you all there!
It is our commitment to create a safe place where all facilitators and accountability partners are welcome. As this event is all about connection, please come prepared to show your face and to talk.
We want to respect everyone’s schedule so we will be starting promptly at 4:00 pm EST and ending at 5:30 pm EST (10:00 pm – 11:30 pm CET).
HN could not have the impact it has had without the committed and consistent support of our group facilitators and accountability partners. We want to up our support for all of you, and focus on creating a feeling of community amongst all the volunteers.
That is why we have decided to begin a new initiative: a monthly Ascend Volunteer Event! This event will include time to get to know your fellow facilitators and APs, share testimonies, receive education and tips, and have meaningful discussion.
More details will be released soon!
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連絡先:atsue@kr.highnoon.org / LINE: atskpk
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Richard & Mari Curry have been Blessed in married since December 2005 and have four children. They love working together as a team and are passionate about caring for others, especially in the realm of marriage development. After Mari received her Masters of Divinity from Cheongshim Theological Seminary, she and Richard served as co-pastors in Florida. Since then, they moved to New Jersey and over the years have happily served in a variety of ministry roles from music to education. All the while, working together to serve the Blessed Marriage Project and now High Noon Couples. They were a part of the founding team in 2013 and have been a part of it ever since. They currently serve as the directors of Highnoon Couples. They love the Energize! Retreats because they help realize True Parent’s desire for healthy couples and reminds us of Heavenly Parent’s love and hope for us all!
Contact Mari at: mari@kr.highnoon.org |
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Crescentia & Leighton DeGoede have been Blessed in married since October 2010, and have three children. Crescentia is currently serving as the District Pastor of district 3 and local pastor of the Clifton Family Church. Previously Crescentia was the Director of the National Blessing and Family Ministry of FFWPU for six years. Both Leighton and Crescentia currently serve as Matching Supporters. Prioritizing their marriage, while juggling children, work, and community service has been an exciting challenge. But they continue to find that the more they invest in their marriage, the more they have to give in all areas of their lives. They love giving other couples the opportunity to infuse their marriages with love deposits through marriage enrichment programs. |
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Christoph & Lena Yasutake have been Blessed in marriage since April 2002 and have three teenagers. They are both equally passionate about marriage education and helping blessed couples create happy and healthy families. The Energize! Retreats are one of their favorite ways to share this passion. They served in the Young Couples ministry for six years and are frequent guest speakers at Blessing Workshops. |
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Kate Pugnoli has served as the Community Liaison and is also responsible for generating our monthly newsletter. A former journalist, she has a Masters of Religious Education from the Unification Theological Seminary where she took focused her studies on counseling courses. She has also had experience facilitating small groups. The mother of two sons, now Blessed in marriage, she lives in Tucson, AZ with her husband Simon Herbert. She is committed to working with the Blessed Marriage Project in hopes that marriage enrichment will be available to communities across the country and particularly to bring the Energize! Couples Retreat to as many couples as possible. |
The Blessed Marriage Project (BMP) is an independently funded, grassroots initiative by Blessed couples for Blessed couples. Its programs welcome Blessed couples and married Blessed family members of every age and at every stage of marriage, and from every part of our Unificationist families community.
The mission of BMP is:
The initiative was conceived by two families in 2013, and formally launched the following year, with the donor couple generously giving $100,000 to cover annual expenses. Now their contribution has been over $200,000 annually, to include the related PureMind.Online initiative. (Read more history.)
The BMP is a 501(c)(3) tax exempt non-profit organization (meet the Board of Directors). The programming is led by professional Unificationist marriage educators.
In 2015, the Project began experimenting with new retreat formats, and expanding its menu of educational resources, most notably, PureMind.Online, to help combat the threat that pornography represents to Blessed couples.
Currently, the primary offering of the BMP is its Energize! Couples Retreats, which are designed for Blessed spouses to experience God’s love through a refreshing opportunity to learn useful information and tools, bond and enjoy each other as spouses, and to connect with other Blessed couples. To anchor the benefits in couples’ lives, the Retreat launches an opportunity for a local Small Group experience, and ongoing educational and supportive events and resources.
The purpose of the BMP also includes training young Unificationists to learn to carry out such programming in the future. In addition, the Project provides for training volunteers to facilitate Small Groups and Seminars among past participants and other married couples in their local church communities. The team is looking for other young people with a passion to support couples to join our staff, as well as older members to partners with us and contribute their skills.
The Project is offering Energize! Couples Retreats in 2017 depending upon what hosting communities contribute in terms of funding and local staff, and how their open dates coincide with the availability of BMP staff. We encourage interested communities and potential donors to contact our staff.
Please contact Mitsue Wolfenberger at mwolfenberger@gmail.com.
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