2.3. Reiniciar y Recompensa

Reiniciar

El anhelo verdadero de tu cerebro no es el porno, sino la dopamina. Sucede que el porno provee mucho de eso.

La naturaleza sobre estimulante de la pornografía sobrecarga los receptores de dopamina en tu cerebro, debilitando su sensibilidad y reduciéndola en número. Esta es la causa de muchos de los síntomas relacionados con el porno con los que las personas lidian: disfunción eréctil, ansiedad social, depresión, preferencia del porno en lugar del sexo en la vida real.

Al desintoxicar tu cerebro del porno, comenzará todo a normalizarse y empezarás a experimentar una gran satisfacción en otras áreas de tu vida.

Recompensa

La razón por la cual no puedes dejar de mirar porno es porque has creado un fuerte hábito en la parte que se recompensa a tu cerebro. En cada situación que te encuentras con señales, o disparadores relacionados con el porno, te pones en piloto automático y comienzas tu rutina de transgredir desordenada, para experimentar los efectos gratificantes de la dopamina asociados con tu hábito de porno.

Charles Duhigg ha hecho una maravillosa investigación acerca de cómo funcionan los hábitos. Toda su investigación concluye en lo que él llama el Ciclo del Hábito.

Pasaremos múltiples lecciones observando tus disparadores (detonantes es otro término común) y veremos qué hacer con ellos.

Por ahora, es importante entender que ese círculo es lo que te provoca que vuelvas a la pornografía una y otra vez. El porno no es un monstruo siniestro. Es comida sexual chatarra. Nos pondremos a trabajar en hackear el círculo vicioso de tu hábito y convertirte “en la clase de persona que no mira porno”.

	Richard & Mari Curry have been Blessed in married since December 2005 and have four children. They love working together as a team and are passionate about caring for others, especially in the realm of marriage development. After Mari received her Masters of Divinity from Cheongshim Theological Seminary, she and Richard served as co-pastors in Florida. Since then, they moved to New Jersey and over the years have happily served in a variety of ministry roles from music to education. All the while, working together to serve the Blessed Marriage Project and now High Noon Couples. They were a part of the founding team in 2013 and have been a part of it ever since. They currently serve as the directors of Highnoon Couples. They love the Energize! Retreats because they help realize True Parent’s desire for healthy couples and reminds us of Heavenly Parent’s love and hope for us all! Contact Mari at: mari@kr.highnoon.org
	Crescentia & Leighton DeGoede have been Blessed in married since October 2010, and have three children. Crescentia is currently serving as the District Pastor of district 3 and local pastor of the Clifton Family Church. Previously Crescentia was the Director of the National Blessing and Family Ministry of FFWPU for six years. Both Leighton and Crescentia currently serve as Matching Supporters. Prioritizing their marriage, while juggling children, work, and community service has been an exciting challenge. But they continue to find that the more they invest in their marriage, the more they have to give in all areas of their lives. They love giving other couples the opportunity to infuse their marriages with love deposits through marriage enrichment programs.
	Christoph & Lena Yasutake have been Blessed in marriage since April 2002 and have three teenagers. They are both equally passionate about marriage education and helping blessed couples create happy and healthy families. The Energize! Retreats are one of their favorite ways to share this passion. They served in the Young Couples ministry for six years and are frequent guest speakers at Blessing Workshops.
	Kate Pugnoli has served as the Community Liaison and is also responsible for generating our monthly newsletter. A former journalist, she has a Masters of Religious Education from the Unification Theological Seminary where she took focused her studies on counseling courses. She has also had experience facilitating small groups. The mother of two sons, now Blessed in marriage, she lives in Tucson, AZ with her husband Simon Herbert. She is committed to working with the Blessed Marriage Project in hopes that marriage enrichment will be available to communities across the country and particularly to bring the Energize! Couples Retreat to as many couples as possible.