Esa es la pregunta que las personas a menudo tienen en mente cuando se trata de su uso del porno.
“Tal vez pueda regularme y no ir lo suficientemente lejos como para experimentar los efectos cerebrales negativos”
La gente intuitivamente coloca la adicción al porno como binaria, o tienes una adicción o estás totalmente bien. Mientras “no cruces la línea”, estarás bien.
Los cambios cerebrales relacionados con la adicción ocurren en un espectro. Puedes experimentarlos en todo momento, en varios niveles de intensidad.
La adicción puede referirse a la manía de gritar, a los síntomas de abstinencia que ponen en peligro la vida o a la indiferencia flagrante por las consecuencias.
El otro extremo del espectro se llama comportamiento compulsivo. Sientes las necesidad de hacer algo, pero puedes resistirte o al menos retrasar el impulso hasta un momento más apropiado.
A lo largo de todo este espectro, hay cualidades específicas necesarias para que algo sea demostrado como adictivo. (Esto es para cualquier adicción, pero en este contexto, se ajusta a la pornografía)
Repetición
Hay un patrón claro y predecible para tu uso. Si estas circunstancias específicas ocurrieran, sabes que lo más probable es que termines transgrediendo. Cuando estás solo en casa. Cuando estás estresado. Cuando estás motivado. Los viernes a la noche, cuando termina la semana. O incluso solo durante las vacaciones de estudio.
¿Tienes un patrón reconocible?
Desensibilización
Te aclimatas y necesitas más y más para estimularte. En el comienzo, fotos en bikini son suficientes para excitar a un joven muchacho, pero luego, él necesita ver más desnudez. Las fotos ya no son suficientes y necesitas videos. Luego necesitas videos más intensos. Luego los necesitas por más tiempo.
¿Has experimentado esto en algún nivel?
Dependencia
Te vuelves dependiente del porno. Es lo que haces para levantarte cuando te sientes deprimido. Se transforma en la única forma que conoces para manejar tu estrés, o en la única forma que conoces para sentirte bien contigo mismo (por lo menos temporalmente).
¿Has experimentado dependencia en algún nivel?
Inmanejable
El porno comienza a interrumpir tu vida normal. Sabes que tienes que estudiar para el exámen de mañana, pero no puedes evitarlo. Sabes que pueden despedirte si te atrapan mirando porno en tu trabajo, pero no puedes evitarlo. Estas visitando a tu prometida/o pero aún así, no puedes evitar entrar a hurtadillas unos minutos.
¿Has experimentado la naturaleza inmanejable de una adicción?
During this event Benjy Uyama will be sharing his thoughts on a topic that he is very passionate about: High Noon’s role in the future of our movement! He will be explaining how High Noon fits into the grand goal to bless 30,000 people in the next 7 years, and even what we can do as individuals. You won’t want to miss this inspiring and informative talk.
There will be small breakouts to discuss this topic and to interact with your fellow volunteers. In the latter half of the event, we will be having a split facilitator and AP time where you can ask questions and receive support.
We would love to see you all there!
It is our commitment to create a safe place where all facilitators and accountability partners are welcome. As this event is all about connection, please come prepared to show your face and to talk.
We want to respect everyone’s schedule so we will be starting promptly at 4:00 pm EST and ending at 5:30 pm EST (10:00 pm – 11:30 pm CET).
Ascend Volunteer Event
HN could not have the impact it has had without the committed and consistent support of our group facilitators and accountability partners. We want to up our support for all of you, and focus on creating a feeling of community amongst all the volunteers.
That is why we have decided to begin a new initiative: a monthly Ascend Volunteer Event! This event will include time to get to know your fellow facilitators and APs, share testimonies, receive education and tips, and have meaningful discussion.
More details will be released soon!
ATTENTION: Group registration will open on March 7. Sign up below to be put on the official waitlist.
Richard & Mari Curry have been Blessed in married since December 2005 and have four children. They love working together as a team and are passionate about caring for others, especially in the realm of marriage development. After Mari received her Masters of Divinity from Cheongshim Theological Seminary, she and Richard served as co-pastors in Florida. Since then, they moved to New Jersey and over the years have happily served in a variety of ministry roles from music to education. All the while, working together to serve the Blessed Marriage Project and now High Noon Couples. They were a part of the founding team in 2013 and have been a part of it ever since. They currently serve as the directors of Highnoon Couples. They love the Energize! Retreats because they help realize True Parent’s desire for healthy couples and reminds us of Heavenly Parent’s love and hope for us all!
Contact Mari at: mari@kr.highnoon.org
Crescentia & Leighton DeGoede have been Blessed in married since October 2010, and have three children. Crescentia is currently serving as the District Pastor of district 3 and local pastor of the Clifton Family Church. Previously Crescentia was the Director of the National Blessing and Family Ministry of FFWPU for six years. Both Leighton and Crescentia currently serve as Matching Supporters. Prioritizing their marriage, while juggling children, work, and community service has been an exciting challenge. But they continue to find that the more they invest in their marriage, the more they have to give in all areas of their lives. They love giving other couples the opportunity to infuse their marriages with love deposits through marriage enrichment programs.
Christoph & Lena Yasutake have been Blessed in marriage since April 2002 and have three teenagers. They are both equally passionate about marriage education and helping blessed couples create happy and healthy families. The Energize! Retreats are one of their favorite ways to share this passion. They served in the Young Couples ministry for six years and are frequent guest speakers at Blessing Workshops.
Kate Pugnoli has served as the Community Liaison and is also responsible for generating our monthly newsletter. A former journalist, she has a Masters of Religious Education from the Unification Theological Seminary where she took focused her studies on counseling courses. She has also had experience facilitating small groups. The mother of two sons, now Blessed in marriage, she lives in Tucson, AZ with her husband Simon Herbert. She is committed to working with the Blessed Marriage Project in hopes that marriage enrichment will be available to communities across the country and particularly to bring the Energize! Couples Retreat to as many couples as possible.
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ABOUT THE BLESSED MARRIAGE PROJECT
The Blessed Marriage Project (BMP) is an independently funded, grassroots initiative by Blessed couples for Blessed couples. Its programs welcome Blessed couples and married Blessed family members of every age and at every stage of marriage, and from every part of our Unificationist families community.
The mission of BMP is:
To connect Blessed couples to God and True Parent’s vision of the true husband and wife relationship,
To challenge couples to evaluate the health and status of their own marriage,
To empower spouses to invest in the further development of their love relationship, and
To educate and support singles and couples to live lives of absolute sexual integrity and to bring their marriages closer to God’s ideal.
The initiative was conceived by two families in 2013, and formally launched the following year, with the donor couple generously giving $100,000 to cover annual expenses. Now their contribution has been over $200,000 annually, to include the related PureMind.Online initiative. (Read more history.)
The BMP is a 501(c)(3) tax exempt non-profit organization (meet the Board of Directors). The programming is led by professional Unificationist marriage educators.
In 2015, the Project began experimenting with new retreat formats, and expanding its menu of educational resources, most notably, PureMind.Online, to help combat the threat that pornography represents to Blessed couples.
Currently, the primary offering of the BMP is its Energize! Couples Retreats, which are designed for Blessed spouses to experience God’s love through a refreshing opportunity to learn useful information and tools, bond and enjoy each other as spouses, and to connect with other Blessed couples. To anchor the benefits in couples’ lives, the Retreat launches an opportunity for a local Small Group experience, and ongoing educational and supportive events and resources.
The purpose of the BMP also includes training young Unificationists to learn to carry out such programming in the future. In addition, the Project provides for training volunteers to facilitate Small Groups and Seminars among past participants and other married couples in their local church communities. The team is looking for other young people with a passion to support couples to join our staff, as well as older members to partners with us and contribute their skills.
The Project is offering Energize! Couples Retreats in 2017 depending upon what hosting communities contribute in terms of funding and local staff, and how their open dates coincide with the availability of BMP staff. We encourage interested communities and potential donors to contact our staff.
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